First of all, let me tell you that I am a male
and do not want to be judgemental. I just want to throw up a few thoughts for
both male and female readers.
Biologically, in any organism, male and female
exist. Apart from child bearing,a female has a role to play and so has a male
in the smallest unit of society called a family.
Upto 3 years of a child, most of its needs is
taken care by the mother. During this phase, the child cannot speak, and
communications are not clear, so there is bound to be problems. But this
problem is borne by the mother. And the problems can be a great variety, be it
hunger, sickness, discomfort, likes & dislikes, wants etc. Do men have such
variety of problems with your subordinates or employees.
Have the men noticed the bargaining skills of
their wives when shopping. Or with the vendor selling vegetables?. Next
time these men should calculate the percentage of savings.
Have men witnessed women getting the work done
from the maid-servants in the house? Just try to equate it with men getting the
job done from plumber or electrician. More often they will compromise with the
work done ( even sub-standard output) and pay what he asks for, but not women.
Okay. Let us assume that in a family a man is
the sole earning member ( a rarity these days). He hands over a fixed
amount to his wife every month and asks her to manage within that.
Examine how she does it. This man may probably take a hint for running his
departmental budget in his company.
Most of the companies have let out housekeeping
to women, because it is obvious, isn’t it?. Now HR is being increasingly
allotted to women. These jobs demand patience as a virtue and men do not seem
to have it nowadays. Presently women have also started to lose this virtue.
Media projects women serving in army as breaking
male bastion. Similarly women have been shown to drive planes,trains and buses.
Protection & such outdoor activities have been male preserve for centuries.
Instead of breaking male bastion it is rather denying or appropriating
his property, in a way. Lot of women took to jobs and the Government got
burdened with providing employment to more people than it could generate. This
resulted in both male and female working in many families (to augument their
collective income) and none employed in some. Will it not cause a social
unrest?.
The current generation of young women have
become far removed from tradition. In a new marriage, both the male and female
go to work defeating the very purpose of wedlocks. In such homes, food is often
sourced from outside and only the night may be spent at home just as if in a
hotel. So pitiable is the situation when they leave their 2 year old child in a
crèche on the way to work 5 or 6 days in a week, 12 hours daily. It probably is
the need of present days that both man and the women go to work. But the source
for this is the greed to earn more. We should probably look at the welfare of
the society rather than its greed. The solution for this has to evolve through
good sense.
